I often think of the people that I always ask favors from.
The other day, Jens was talking about working people, who would/can only do one task at work, who is never willing to do anything more than their job description. They can't go out of their way to complete a task, they can't come up with new ideas to contribute to their organization, they can't even respond to an e-mail that does not have a direct impact on their job.
The people I ask favors from are people that are recognized as easy to ask favors from.
I do not give off a good vibe when people ask me to do favors. It depends on who is asking me, and what they are asking me to do of course, but why do I need these criteria to genuinely want to help someone? I want to be a pharmacist, I want to work at IHS helping the underprivileged. But there are lots of alcoholics and smokers, I don't like the smell of alcoholics and smokers, so am I going to give off a vibe that shows how disgusted I am?
They would give anything they have, just to help me out.
It may not have to be money that I am talking about, often, it is NOT about the money. They would give them their time, hours a time, they would drive me to my apartment, even though it is completely out of the way. They would not care that it's raining or it's cold. Sometimes, they may even give up their study time to share their knowledge, and help me with academics.
The giving tree.
I think of the book. There were no complaints, people keep giving, I keep taking. When I am capable of helping other people, sometimes I still say no. It may inconvenience me, it might make me cold, I will be tired if I don't sleep, I won't be able to make it to my other appointment on time. Excuses, because I don't like to put your needs first, I come first, I am selfish.
The giving tree.
I want to be more generous. Give with no expectations. It would be the most honorable to be known as a person who gives. I can still succeed when I put other people's needs first, because these people I often ask favors from, are successful people. Success is really not defined by the grades you get, the amount of money you make, the titles you have. I fear to become the people Jens describes, it is probably one of the keys to failure.
The giving tree.
There are nice people out there who don't know how to say no, me on the other hand, I say no too often. I have to learn to say yes. I have to learn to be on top of my own job, because Mrs. Gutoff said that the busiest people are the people with the most time. To become a person in the position to give, I have to be a person who manages my time well.
But still give.
Keep giving. This is my next step: Keep giving.
p.s. I'd love to list people who I ask favors from, but these people are well known, they are around me, they are around you. & They are probably the same people we all ask favors from. I want to be one of them.
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